Since dating SFC Adolphe Stephens Jr ; beginning January 2013, he has slept with over 20 other women from both his past and present conquests. All of which took place during the time we were in a “relationship”. He uses Facebook as a means to “hunt” for unsuspecting and vulnerable women to engage in s*x; either as a one-night stand (his typical M/O) or as the “go to” chick when he becomes bored. I found out about these other women when an instinctive urge compelled me to go thru his cell phone; of which his Facebook account was unsecured. I had access to nearly every aspect of his life and never felt the need to go a “snooping” mission. I am also the quality of woman who wants so badly to believe there is good in everyone. But that one day’s epiphany; the revelation of his true character; changed my life forever.
After reading the phone’s text messages and Facebook inbox messages, I became physically ill. He is an habitual liar and heavy drinker who uses the excuse of having PTSD from military service/ deployment as the cause for his actions. When in fact, he is a man who has no respect for women and views all women as disposable pleasures. Prior to our relationship, he fathered a child with his mistress ;while still married to his first wife. The mistress became his second wife and while married to her; he continued to have s*x with his first wife. Additionally, he is rumoured to have a child with a preacher’s wife, with whom he was having an affair. The two agreed to “pass” the child as the preacher’s son to cover up their affair. His rationale was that the child was better off never knowing the truth of his paternity.
Recently, he informed me that he slept with a woman who confessed to having the active gential h***** virus. My prayer is that other women will not befall the same fate as I; falling in love with a man who spent almost an entire year telling me lies. I was truly “sleeping with the enemy” and now I feel as I am “Walking Dead”.