Dan told me that he loves me, we are soulmates, he wants to “make it official” with me, and that he wants to have children with me. The next day he broke up with me. He is a the rapist! Yet, he does not believe that he deserves to be happy. He also does not believe in unconditional love. He is in his 40s, and clearly not ready for a relationship with any adult. How can you decide to dump your “soulmate” the very next day based on a “feeling” that it “won’t work out?” He appears to be very mature with his feelings, but in the end, he has so many emotions that he basically runs away from anything positive and healthy.